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Two things I remember from receiving a major (and unexpected) promotion years ago: 1) getting onto the train home so excited that I wanted to broadcast the news to a carriage-load of tired strangers (I didn\u2019t!), and 2) walking into my new office on Day 1, closing the door and sinking my head into my hands wondering what exactly I\u2019d walked myself into.<\/p>\n

I truly believe that the person you come face to face with, when you become a leader, is yourself.\u00a0There is something so personal about stepping into that challenging and often contradictory place:\u00a0Find your voice.\u00a0Be a great listener.\u00a0Give clear direction.\u00a0Coach people to think for themselves.\u00a0Nurture your team members.\u00a0Treat people like adults.\u00a0Oh, and get the results.<\/p>\n

When you become a leader, everything about you is amplified.\u00a0Your strengths, weaknesses, mood, self-regard, assertiveness, clarity \u2013 all of these are projected onto a bigger screen and the higher you go, the longer the reach of your leadership shadow.\u00a0Your confidence is infectious.\u00a0Your belief is inspirational.\u00a0Your whisper of doubt holds everybody back.<\/p>\n

In the 20 years that I have been working with leaders I have observed that the leaders we choose to follow seem to be able to hold that contradictory space of both trusting and questioning themselves: They trust themselves to do, to say, to let go of, to take a chance, to say yes, to say no.\u00a0They question themselves to ask, to not know, to keep learning, to try new things.\u00a0These are the leaders who motivate, engage, develop and inspire others to challenge themselves.<\/p>\n

A shorter version of this article first appeared in the e-zine of the Irish Institute for Training and Development<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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